Just about to hit 36, Evan Griffith Dando, the mild Bostonian, is more likely to throw a tea party these days than crack open another bottle of Russia’s finest. In the process of rehabilitation?to life, mostly?the original King Of The Slackers, who rose to prominence thanks to classic hard pop discs like Hate Your Friends (the Lemonheads’ 1987 debut), Lovey (1990) and breakthrough album It’s A Shame About Ray (1992), decided not to “join that stupid club”